Monday, January 14, 2013

Becoming Better

I've already set my list of resolutions. 13 of them for 2013. But a little something I read this morning, by Matthew Kelly, got me thinking and I may just have to revise my list. 13 resolutions, plus one to grow on! Here is what I read:
"Less than two years ago, my father died after a long-drawn-out battle with the tyrant we call cancer. My father was an extraordinary man. Not that he invented something that changed the course of human history; no, he was extraordinary in the very ordinary things of life. As a husband and a father, as an employee and a friend, as a member of his local community and as a citizen of his nation. The world is richer, and a better place, because he lived.
 Every day I think about him. I ponder what he would do if he were faced with decisions and situations I am faced with. There are times when I wish I could meet him for lunch and just talk. Sometimes when I am feeling sorry for myself, I become sad because he will never meet the woman I marry or know my children. They will never know him. There is so much of my life yet to be lived that I will not be able to share with him.
There is a memory that refuses to leave me. With my brothers I am carrying his coffin from the church after his funeral. One thought etched itself in my mind at that moment. I thought to myself, I wish I had known him better.
There are just so many things that I wish I could talk to him about one more time, and I can see us both sitting in front of the TV...
I had a wonderful father and a wonderful relationship with him. He made it a priority to make memories with me, and I treasure those now that he is gone. But he is gone, and I wish I knew more about his childhood, more about his parents, more about how he found his way when he was young. I wish I knew how he felt about things we never thought to discuss. I often wonder whether he held some knowledge that would help me further understand my path and the life I am being called to live.
All of this is just a young man who misses his father. But his dying has taught me one last lesson: take the time to get to know the people you love, deeply, for one day they will no longer be there, and when that day comes we will all wish we had known them better."
How well do you really know your father or your mother? Your brother or sister? How about your spouse and your children? Is it possible to truly love and care for these people and to truly want the best for them if you don't even care enough to get to know more about who they really are? on a deeper level? How much of your time together is spent "sitting in front of the TV", and what is that worth in the long run? If that person were gone tomorrow, what would you regret? What would you wish you could know about them that you hadn't thought to ask before? What are the things you would miss most about them? What would you regret not doing together? I'm going to be thinking about that, and this year I will resolve to start asking...and listening...and learning...and doing...more.

Friday, July 6, 2012

The Bird Whisperer


 I have been re-reading "The Secret" lately. Today, I think the kids and I attracted this little yellow bird. My father-in-law would be so proud...haha! We didn't attract it on purpose, but earlier this week while we were out on a morning trail walk behind our house, we stopped to observe and admire these cute little yellow birds...about a dozen or two of them, all around us, pecking around the bushes for a morning snack. The little birds were so cute, so it stuck out in my mind. 

So guess what? 

When Adam came home from work today, he announced that he had a surprise for the kids. He walked in holding a jar with one of the very same little yellow birds! He had found it injured and unable to fly while he was leaving work, so he collected it into the jar with bird food and some water and brought it home. The kids had fun trying to name it. One of its eyes is damaged, so Adam wanted to name it Willie...after One-Eyed Willie. Zach wanted to name it Luigi, and Katelyn wanted to name it Krysta, after the fairy from "Fern Gully". I'm not sure what they finally decided on, but I think it might have been Sharkey. I just hope Sharkey is not carrying any diseases!! He/She is so adorable. The kids are absolutely in love. Katelyn put the jar in her bedroom and sang it beautiful bird lullabies for about a half hour tonight because she thought she could help it fall asleep and relax.

Who knew my husband was such a bird whisperer? He says the bird is called a Golden Finch. 

So there you have it folks. The law of attraction in action, and tonight my kids have a Golden Finch in a jar in their bedroom to prove it!!

Thursday, July 5, 2012

Girls Nights at Sara's

I love love LOVE these girls and the nights we have been able to share together. It was probably two or three years ago that I first started coming to these girl's nights at Sara's (far left). When we first started, I think I hardly knew most of these girls, but somehow I was invited...probably by Crysta (green shirt) who is always coordinating fun stuff! We mostly laugh and sometimes cry. We almost always eat. I couldn't have imagined how much would have changed in everyone's lives since then, or the many changes soon to come. I imagine this was probably our last girl's night at Sara's (at least in California), but with these girls no matter the time and distance, I'm sure we will have no trouble picking it up where we left off. I wish all my love and all the best to these ladies. I'm excited to see where life takes them all. I am so grateful that they are my friends!! Thank you ladies! <3

Wednesday, July 4, 2012


 We are creatures of habit (at least on the 4th of July). We wake up early to do a Fun Run, we attend a flag raising ceremony, then go eat pancakes or french toast. If we can, we take a swim and have a BBQ, but every year (without fail) we go to the same park with the same people and watch the same fireworks year after year. I love it!!! The kids run around and act crazy until the sun goes down. And this year, thanks to Red Vines and gummy worms, they ran around 4x as fast and 4x as crazy (if my calculations are correct). The fireworks were wonderful as ever, and the finale was over the top. It was like that wolf scene in Twilight that caused seizures in the audience, so I closed my eyes a little. These are a few of the pictures of the kids acting like goof-balls, so happy to be together with cousins and such. And can I just say it was next to impossible to get a shot of Littleman standing still!!

Happy 4th everyone!!

Monday, July 2, 2012

Jamba Juice Day

I love my kids!! I love taking them to this lovely little shopping center and drinking Jamba Juice outside on a nice, sunny California day. 

It makes my heart happy. What more can I say??

Saturday, June 30, 2012

In the Pool

My kids get FREE swim lessons, from the BEST swim instructor*
 *with a running shirt tan, hehe!

I'm not sure why he gives us such a good deal...he must have a crush on me or something!



Thursday, June 28, 2012

The Future was Yesterday?!

 



I saw this photo on facebook this morning. Yesterday was the day that Marty McFly time-traveled to on "Back to the Future". Boy, seeing this made me feel old!

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

I think I don't like food anymore.

I just finished this incredibly long and boring Email to my daughter's teacher that basically sums up my life for the past year or so. I've read a statistic that families dealing with dietary restrictions are more stressed out than families who are not. Personally, I couldn't agree more! I think a good deal of my stress comes from not even knowing if all this will help her, but I feel like we should at least try.

Hi Mrs. R,

I hope you had a nice and relaxing break. Kate said the baby had to have stitches recently. Poor guy! I hope he's feeling better!

I just want to let you know we had some new blood work done for Kate that shows she is having a strong immune reaction when she eats foods containing wheat, gluten, peanuts, almonds, and dairy casein (including cheese, yogurt, and cow milk). Also, we should be limiting her sugar intake.

So far she has never had any serious anaphylactic-type reactions (thankfully), so if she accidentally eats one of these foods we don't expect anything crazy to happen. Mainly she just gets itchy hives, eczema and digestive problems. Even so, we are trying to keep her on a diet strictly restricting these problem foods so that we can see if her symptoms improve when she avoids them.

She's been on the diet for about 2-3 weeks now and it has been very hard on all of us. To make matters worse, Kate sneaks foods she knows she shouldn't have whenever she finds the chance. I've caught her sneaking rolls under the table at Easter, an old Cheeto she found on her cousin's bookshelf, a piece of candy off the tennis court...It's sad, but I think she is desperate to eat something "normal". At school she'll often trade her "safe" foods for her friends' brownie or crackers. I have asked her repeatedly not to trade, but she still does. She eats birthday treats at school when she knows she should bring it to me first to be sure. I'm sure she's worried that I'll say no, so she eats it while I'm not there to say it. I can't say that I blame her, either. It has been very hard for her not to be able to eat what everyone else is eating, and I feel terrible telling her "no" all day long.

Anyway, I wanted you to be aware of this so you can be mindful of it during the school day. Since I'm not there to keep an eye on what she eats, I'm asking for your help with watching her in the classroom. I told her I was writing this letter and that you would be watching her at school. Hopefully she won't be so sneaky if she knows you are aware of her diet, too. ;-)

If you could get me a copy of the birthday list, that would be great. That way I can plan with the other parents so I can send a safe treat for Kate on birthdays so she won't feel so left out. Also, if there will be any type of school or classroom celebration involving food, I would like to know about it ahead of time so I can plan to have an alternative treat for Kate (she should not have any pizza or ice cream, for instance). If you offer candy as a reward to the class, please don't let Kate have more than a small lollypop or a few Skittles worth...and she shouldn't have anything containing milk, like chocolate. Many licorices even contain gluten, which she should not have. I think Skittles and Starbursts are safe for her. The DumDum lollypops you have are probably safe. Let me know if you want me to bring in a bag of candy for that purpose.

As far as the lunch table goes, I'm at a loss. I would rather not have her sit at the allergy table. And I doubt there are any supervisors there who will be watching what she eats. Do you have any suggestions on how to keep kids from trading with her?

I feel terrible putting all this on you, but in order to know if this diet is working I need to know what she's eating at school. Ultimately, I don't want anyone to give her food at school without me giving the okay. And whenever possible, I would like to be notified of social food situations ahead of time so I can provide a safe substitute for her to feel more included.

If you have any questions please ask.

Thank you!!!
Dana 

For the record, the title of this post was an exaggeration. I still like food...just maybe not as much. 

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Fortunately...

I wasn't sure what to make for dinner tonight. Katelyn made an unusual request. "Let's eat at Panda Express tonight." It's right across the street from us, so naturally we never eat there.

I was surprised, "Why do you want to eat at P.E.?" Kate: "Because I want to get a fortune cookie so I'll know what's in my future."

I wanted to teach her that fortune cookies didn't really determine your future, so we wrote some fortunes of our own just for fun. Here are a few of the ones that Kate came up with...

(Off topic, we took this pic while she was waiting to meet David Archuleta, whom she may or may not have had a huge crush on since she was 2!!)


You will go far, far away.


You will lose all your teeth at once.


You will go in outer space on Monday...wait, Mom is today Monday? (Me: Yes.)...I mean Friday.


There's a monster under your bed.


You were born in a town without any water. Kenya.


You will lose a tooth and you will swallow the tooth.


You were born in 1999.

Sorry, this list cracks me up. I have no idea where she came up with these. Except for the losing teeth fortunes. That seems to be a pretty hot topic in 1st grade.

Here's one from me to Katelyn:

You will marry David Archuleta when he is 40.

Peace.

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

How to Trap a Leprechaun


Did you know that if you catch a leprechaun he has to give you all of his gold? Did you know that people actually build leprechaun traps every year? Growing up near Chico, I thought the only St Pat's day tradition was getting sloshed, but when Kate came home with an assignment to build a leprechaun trap, I learned about a fun tradition that doesn't involve alcohol...or green food coloring for that matter. Yay! I googled leprechaun traps and learned so much! Apparently they're a pretty big deal among school children. Every St Patrick's Day kids (and parents) set to work making leprechaun traps in the hopes of catching one of the little guys, but they wake up on St Pat's day only to find that the sneaky leprechaun got away. Most likely, they'll find that the trap has been sprung (evidence that it was a close call), and that in his struggle to get away, the leprechaun carelessly dropped some of his goodies (like chocolate coins, green glitter, or stickers...even a note), which your child will be quite excited to find!



During our research, the kids and I had fun with these videos: Can you spot a leprechaun??
leprechaun caught on webcam 
We even found a live leprechaun watch webcam. It's a 24/7 live watch on a fairy ring in Ireland.


I'm going out on a limb now and assuming that the leprechaun won't read this post. Here is how the trap works:

The leprechaun will encounter our trap and notice the first ladder. Once he reads the "Don't ClimB ladder!" sign, he will naturally want to climb the ladder...because leprechauns are mischievous. When he encounters the second ladder he will want to climb it, too; there is a bag of gold up on that hat that he won't be able to resist. Once he is on the hat he will notice a rainbow slide, and a sign reading "Do not slide on rainbow!" Naturally, he will want to slide on the rainbow. He knows that pots of gold are hidden at ends of rainbows. He won't be able to resist. But here is the trick: the clouds at the end of the rainbow are concealing a hole we cut into the box. Sneaky! When the leprechaun slides down the rainbow, he will slide straight through the clouds and into our net! Don't worry, we placed a small pillow under the net. Katelyn was concerned for him to have a soft landing. After all, we don't want to hurt him, just want his gold.


I can't tell you how excited the kids are to catch a leprechaun. As soon as Littleman woke up the next morning he came knocking on my door, "Mom, let's go see if we caught a...what's that thing called again!?"

**If you googled onto this site in search of leprechaun trap ideas, let me tell you that this took us about 8 long hours to plan and put together. That takes some of the fun out of leprechaun trap building. You might want to build something simpler...(we were just really set on incorporating the butterfly net). The base is a cardboard box wrapped in green papers. The box is laid on its side, opening to the back. We cut a hole and taped the butterfly net underneath, inside the box. The hat is an empty oatmeal container wrapped in green scrapbook paper. I cut a 12" round of green fabric for the brim of the hat, but paper would work as well. Katelyn painted the rainbow. The clouds are fiberfill. For the ladders, I hot glued jumbo popsicle sticks (rails) and lollipop sticks (rungs). We cut coins out of golden card stock and wrapped them in a bit of tulle. We cut off one of the flaps of the box and decorated it to look like sky and propped it up against the hat.

Have fun leprechaun hunting!!

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Feeling Good About This Today:

Recently I saw an ad for an adorable strawberry bouquet. I wanted to get it for Adam this V-Day so I called to ask for the price. $49 for a bouquet of twelve!?!? My first thought was: 12 isn't that many. My next thought was: I can make that myself!! I had a lot of fun this morning creating this arrangement. It was very easy and turned out beautifully!! Altogether I spent about $20...including the vase. The arrangement is about 40 berries, so I had plenty of extra to hand out to teachers, friends, kids, etc.

 Littleman helped me dip 'em.

He really wanted to help me eat 'em.
  

 Instead, I used some leftover chocolate to make him these:
 
I'd never seen him so excited to eat a banana!!
And now...I have a date with a handsome man. I'd better go get ready!

Happy I-Love-You Day everybody! :)

Friday, February 10, 2012

Wipeout Baby-Makers

My brother-and-sister-in-law were on the Wipeout Valentine's Couples episode yesterday. The show is so much funnier to watch when you know the people who are wiping out. Hehe! You can link to the episode here. Link to some photos here, here, here and here. Go Baby-Makers!!

And while we're on the subject, another brother and sister-in-law are on a PBS family vacation show called "Getting Away Together". You can watch the preview here. She's the one named Angela. The full episode will be online on Feb. 15th.

Peace.

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Robot Boxing and Cow Pies...Oh, My!


True and random stories:

Right now Adam and I are watching a movie about boxing robots. 
It would be funny if they had called it "Rocky 2012"...or something like that.

We went up to my parents for Christmas recently. My mom took this picture of Kate. I like the way the trees line up perfectly in the background. We were out on Cal Worthington's huge ranch riding dirt bikes and quads. Adam went off jumps and almost rolled his quad. It was his favorite part of the trip. Did I mention that cow pies were flying everywhere? Yep...fun times.

Kate's vocabulary list this week has "Oh, My!" listed as one of the words. It's hand-written as an additional word and it's written about ten times. As if once wasn't enough.

Go see Cal!!

Monday, December 12, 2011

Almost Famous

Ummm...we tried out for a commercial. Adam and I. It was so much fun. We drove to Burbank, they videotaped us talking about TurboTax and then asked us questions about our "favorite" NBC shows. And by favorite, I mean the three shows that they told us to talk about...which were not my favorite. After, we got some dinner and yogurt. The tart cranberry raspberry at Yogurtland was sooo yummy. Then we drove home and had something fun to talk about. No, we did not get a call back. I am curious to see the commercial now to find out who they chose. <3

Sunday, December 11, 2011

Granny B turns One-oh-Three

 Today my beautiful Granny turned 103. I wasn't there for her party, we only talked on the phone, but here are some of the pictures my mom took. Granny is the sweetest lady I know. On the phone she talked to me about how blessed she was to have had a good husband and a good son and good grandchildren. I told her that I feel blessed to have such a great granny. When I was growing up I would stay the night with my Granny as often as possible. I would usually stay over on Friday nights. Granny and I would hang out and she would tell me the stories of her life. She taught me how to sew and crochet by hand. She would help me make clothes for my dolls. She would show me her "treasures"...like her old dolls from when she was a girl, and her Japanese jewelry box that played a tune when you opened the door, and an old cartoon that her son had drawn. Once I drew her a picture of Bart Simpson playing basketball. I'm not sure what she saw in that picture, but she kept it on display for years. It might even still be up...haha! Granny and I would sleep together in her big bed. She lived near a go cart race track and I would fall asleep to the sounds of the races going throughout the night. Every morning she would do her exercises before she got out of bed, so I would exercise, too. We would stretch our legs and do a few crunches...that was about it. I still do that sometimes when I wake up...because it's what granny does. Then Granny would get up and fix breakfast. She would always sing her favorite old songs while she cooked and my cousin would make jokes because the singing wasn't very good. First she would cook bacon, then she would scramble eggs in the bacon grease with some black pepper, and let me tell you...bacon grease makes for some delicious scrambled eggs! Then she would heat up some water for my hot chocolate and her coffee. Last, she would make me my favorite toast with cinnamon and sugar. I would watch the Saturday cartoons while we ate our breakfast, then when all the info-mercials started coming on I would go out to play in her yard. I would climb her tree for a pomegranate and sit and eat the pretty red seeds. I would make necklaces out of the 4 o'clock flowers when they opened, and I would play with her snap dragons. I would suck on the milk thistle and chew the mint leaves that grew near her garage, and I would try to plant the peas from her pea pod tree, or pick the yellow flowers from her bush and pretend to be a flower girl in a wedding. One time I picked off nearly all the little yellow flowers from her bush and granny got mad. That's the only time I can remember her being mad. I stayed with her a lot in college, too. Whenever I was too tired to drive home at night, I would go to granny's. It didn't matter what hour of the night it was, I would pull up and come to the door and she would already know I was there...even though she is hard of hearing. I love my Granny B. She is an amazing lady!

 I love that they got her a pinata this year. She is a candy fanatic. She actually got down on her hands and knees to scramble up the candy. She is really just a kid at heart. Priceless!
 
 I love you Granny!

Monday, November 28, 2011

Kate Update

So for anyone who cares...Kate definitely does not have Celiac Disease. It was confirmed by blood work and biopsy, so...pretty certain. It's great news...except that we still don't know what's going on with her. Some of her symptoms are worse; some are better. I read online that sometimes with chronic hives the cause is never determined, and it can take up to 5 years for the hives to go away on their own. So far it has been about a year and a half. The hives appear virtually every day, and are getting progressively worse. I've been taking a break from the doctors ever since her upper GI procedure turned out no results. She's on a probiotic, and we have been trying essential oils from a company called doTerra. We really like the oils we've tried, but so far the only results we've seen for the hives is that when we rub lavender and melaleuca on the rash she gets immediate relief from the itching and the swelling goes down. Don't get me wrong, that's great news, and it's more than I can say for all the OTC antihistamines we have tried, but honestly I was hoping the oils could cure her; not just relieve her symptoms. Other oils that seem to help her with other stuff like digestion, asthma and nausea/vomiting have been lemon, peppermint and a blend for breathing. Also the peppermint oil has helped reduce the kids' fevers when they have been sick. It feels great to be able to treat their everyday ailments naturally. Plus it smells yummy!

In summation: We are frustrated. We are grateful for the oils. We are trying to be patient...

Friday, November 18, 2011

1st Grade Thanksgiving Play


1st Grade Thanksgiving Play: Katelyn was Pocahontas, I was the pianist, and Zach was at every rehearsal. He made very good friends with the lady who painted the backdrop, and after the play Kate's teacher called him up in front of everyone and gave him a bag of licorice for being such a good sport. By the end, he could sing all the songs right along with the entire 1st grade. Very cute!
Have a Happy Thanksgiving!!

Monday, October 31, 2011

Halloween


 Happy Halloween!!

Monday, July 4, 2011

Monday, June 27, 2011

Ch-ch-ch-ch-CHANGES

We are on a food adventure. For the past year or so we have been struggling to find out Katelyn's food allergies. (We are assuming it's food-related.) We had some success with eliminating dairy, and as her other symptoms gradually worsened we put her on a natural, whole-foods type of diet just to be sure we weren't harming her with all the dyes and preservative junk that is in so much of the supermarket foods these days. For the past I don't know how long, I have been struggling with eliminating gluten. This is by far the hardest and biggest challenge. That's why I titled this post "Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes"...because we have been making drastic dietary lifestyle changes, with many false starts along the way. (Also I just like David Bowie, right?) Gluten is in so many things, but you've got to be freakin Einstein to recognize it in an ingredients list! If the label says "spices", "natural flavors", "modified", "hydrolyzed"...whatever...then you could be in big trouble. I didn't know all this until recently, but I could have bought supposedly gluten free corn chips, and lo and behold they went down the same conveyor belt as flour tortilla chips and suddenly all the gluten symptoms are back again! The label won't always tell you that. Did you know play dough has gluten? And if your child eats an apple slice after playing w/ the play dough she can get sick all over again? Well, I learned that the hard way three days ago. Did you know that gluten-free peanut butter isn't gluten-free if the last person making a peanut butter sandwich double-dipped the knife? I also learned that the hard way...just last night. Did you know you can call the manufacturer directly to ask them 20 questions about their ingredients and whether or not they were derived from glutenous grains? Well I did that just the other day, and I am relieved to know that Silk Almond and Coconut milks are "to the best of their knowledge" gluten -free. Here are some books I have read lately and LOVED: "The Perricone Weight Loss Diet" by Dr. Perricone (I recommend this one to anyone who is interested in living healthier and looking younger!) and "The G-Free Diet: A Gluten-Free Survival Guide" by Elisabeth Hasselbeck (the conservative girl from "The View"). I'm not sure if Katelyn has Celiac Disease, but the odds are leaning towards it, and this 2nd book has been invaluable to me. Now I will be able to self-test her for gluten without all the confusion, frustration and false starts of the past year. My advice to anyone trying to live a restricted or simply a healthier, more natural diet is to focus on the foods you CAN eat, not the foods you can't. That is the BEST advice I can give you. Oh, and read a book ASAP. Bless her little heart, Katelyn never complains. Sometimes she'll cry or whimper and it breaks my heart because I know this must be hard for her, but she never complains and after we explain things to her she never questions. She has so much faith in our judgement. Sometimes I cry, too. Because I feel like we may be coming closer to an answer, and that is both exciting and scary at the same time. And because I worry about the possibility that we may be pursuing false leads. That is scary, too, because I am SO ready for my little girl to be healthy again. Because I want this all to be over with. I want answers and I want to move forward...get on with life. But...in case we are on a false lead...we are starting her on a DesBio food sensitivities kit tomorrow, and we finally got the allergist appointment set up for next month. I hope he will be willing to consider my concerns about Celiac/gluten. I am a mom on a mission. "I can do this." That is what I keep telling myself. And you, dear reader, thank you for listening to me vent.